Normally, this would be the kind of thing that I beat myself up about for days on end. I would internalize this as a message that I am inherently unlovable and not worth the effort of reconciliation.
Some friendships are not of the life-long sort. I tend to hold on to people and try to work things out long after there is any mutual joy left in the relationship. Today, I am recognizing that endings are painful for me, but they are a necessary part of life. I will let her go and focus my energy and love on those friends who are in it for the long haul. I will try to focus on this being about her unwillingness to work things out and not on my worth as a person.
I choose to wish her well and let her go.
How do you handle the inevitable endings in your life?
Often, I think, what we see as an ending isn't an ending at all, but a recognition that something is already gone. Viewing it that way can make a difference, because it seems less like a decision, less like letting something go...there's no real change except in your acknowledgment of the fact that a change took place some time in the past--or that a relationship was never what you hoped it would be.
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